Survivors with partners in a BIP

Safe and Together Ally Campaign:
This is free to download. There are two versions. One that is graphic heavy and another which is text only.

It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence, by Meg Kennedy Dugan, National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence: 5 Things to Say

Power & Control Wheels: 

Signs of Change:

Signs of NOT Changing:

Advocacy/Counseling Books for DV Survivors

Bancroft, Lundy. Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2003)

Bancroft, Lundy and JAC Patrissi. Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can – And Should – Be Saved (2011)

Bancroft, Lundy. When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse (2005)

Bancroft, Lundy. Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men (2015)

Brown, Brene. I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” (2007)

Brown, Brene. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (2010)

Brown, Brene. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (2017)

Burns, David. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (2008)

Cori, Jasmine Lee. Healing from Trauma: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding Your Symptoms and Reclaiming Your Life (2008)

Crompton, Vicki & Kessner, Ellen Zelda. Saving Beauty from the Beast: How to Protect Your Daughter from an Unhealthy Relationship (2004).

Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship (2010)

De Becker, Gavin. The Gift of Fear (1999)

Dugan, Meg Kennedy & Hock, Roger.  It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence (3rd edition – 2018)

Gray, Lisa. They Don’t Tell: Child Abuse: A Mother’s Perspective (2015)

Harris, Russ. The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living (2008)

Harris, Russ. The Reality Slap: Finding Peace and Fulfillment When Life Hurts (2012)

Herman, Judith. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror (2015)

King, Ruth. Healing Rage: Women Making Inner Peace Possible (2008)

King, Ruth. Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out (2018)

Matsakis, Aphrodite. The Rape Recovery Handbook: Step-By-Step Help for Survivors of Sexual Assault (2003)

Matsakis, Aphrodite. Trust After Trauma: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them (1998)

The Mindfulness Project. I am here now: A creative mindfulness guide and journal (2016)

Murray, Jill. But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships (2001)

Neff, Kristin. The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength and Thrive (2018)

Robinson, Lori. I Will Survive: The African-American Guide to Healing from Sexual Assault and Abuse (2003)

Rothschild, Babette. 8 Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery (2010)

Sandberg, Sheryl. Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy (2017)

Shannon, Jennifer. Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind: How to Stop the Cycle of Anxiety, Fear and Worry (2017)

Stark, Evan. Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life (2009)

van der Kolk, Bessel. The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (2015)

Williams, Mary Beth. PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms (2016)