From Theory to Practice Sexualized Abuse Conference Materials

Day One: Wednesday, November 17, 2021

 

10:00 am – 11:30 am Plenary 1: Why it is so hard to talk about sex and why it is so important that we do so through a sex positive lens
Faculty: Adrienne Rowland
Description: Description: Talking about sex is probably one of the most difficult topics mental health professionals face. Many of us didn’t have great models of how to talk about sex growing up and we certainly didn’t get the training in our professional careers unless we specifically sought it out. What we have learned, the beliefs we have and the biases that we may or may not recognize have a direct impact on the work we do in the therapeutic setting. This workshop is designed to challenge participants to consider how what they believe about sex shows up in their interactions with group participants and the individual client. This workshop will challenge participants to examine their bias with regards to beliefs about sexuality, sexual preferences and sexual practices and consider how those biases impact the work they do within the context of batterer intervention. Further, this workshop will help dispel myths about sexual taboos, pornography, nonmonogamy and gender roles through a sex positive lens. You will not be asked to change your beliefs, but you will be encouraged to courageously examine lessons you have learned.
Session Materials:
Adrienne Rowland PowerPoint Presentation
Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/_1Gz2aeI590

11:30 am – 11:45 am Break

11:45 am – 1:15 pm Plenary 2: Sex Education 201: Gaining Familiarity with the Unspoken
Faculty: Diana Groener
Description: Sexual issues are often discussed in negative terms: abuse, addiction, compulsion, etc. This sex positive seminar turns that discussion around and discusses sexuality from an enriching, pleasurable point of view. The modern sexual lexicon will be described, giving attendees both a vocabulary and a framework for understanding sexual behaviors. Desire, fantasy, attraction, sex drive, and use of sexually stimulating material will each be touched on, all while keeping in mind the intersectionality of gender and orientation.
Session Materials:
Gaining Familiarity with the Unspoken
Videos recommended by Diana Groener for use in group
A Call to Men, Tony Porter, Ted Talk 2010: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td1PbsV6B80
Consent is Like a Cup of Tea, Youtube, Blue Seat Studios 2015: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU
What Young Women Believe about their own Pleasure, Peggy Orenstein, Ted Talk 2016: https://www.ted.com/talks/peggy_orenstein_what_young_women_believe_about_their_own_sexual_pleasure?language=en
Let’s Talk About Sex: the reality of the sexual pleasure disparity, Grace Wetzl, Youtube, Tedx 2018: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu4MbmDPwNQ
Sex Needs a New Metaphor, Al Vernacchio, Ted Talk 2012: https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one?language=en
What’s Your Sexual Footprint? Al Vernacchio, Youtube, Tedx 2013: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ckqQn7eG9es
The Truth About Unwanted Arousal, Emily Nagoski, Ted Talk 2018: https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal?language=en
Our Story of Rape and Reconciliation, Thordis Elva & Tom Stranger, Ted Talk 2016: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyPoqFcvt9w
A Case for Cliteracy, Sophia Wallace, Ted Talk 2014: https://www.ted.com/talks/sophia_wallace_a_case_for_cliteracy?language=en
Everyday Sexism, Laura Bates, Ted Talk 2013: https://www.ted.com/talks/laura_bates_everyday_sexism?language=en

1:15 pm – 2:15 pm Lunch Buffet Provided

2:15 pm – 3:45 pm Plenary 3: Male Sexual Violence: A New and Transformative Definition
Faculty: Greg Loughlin
Description: How one defines sexual violence has significant implications for intervention and prevention efforts. Most definitions, while accomplishing their goal within the context they were created, are not suitable for educational settings designed to encourage behavioral change. This workshop will review and critique current definitions of sexual violence, and then present Men Stopping Violence’s definition of male sexual violence against women and how that definition is applied directly in Men Stopping Violence’s intervention program and, in the community at large.
Session Materials:
MSV Sexual Violence Definition PowerPoint Presentation – BISC-MI – 2021
MSV Definition of Male Sexual Violence – Springer 2020
Pre-Conference Video
: https://youtu.be/ySwzwGCizE8

3:45 pm – 4:00 pm Break

4:00 pm – 5:30 pm Plenary 4: Behind the Cloak of Darkness, the Impact of Pornography
Faculty: Myra Strand
Description: Contemporary humans live in a sexual paradox silently swimming in the long reach of the impact of porn- hardcore and very violent, male dominated porn. In 2015, the average age a person first viewed these images and/or videos was 11 years old, and some sources now say that this number is closer to 8 years. Because of this, porn is becoming a primary form of sex education and it is shifting the very definition of what sex is and how it is done. There are common pornographic themes and scripts that may lead to increased victimization, such as the normalization of strangulation, of BDSM (but without the typical and learned BDSM safety precautions), of revenge porn, or of child rape/torture. Further, much of porn is commonly uploaded onto the web by millions of individual users in addition to production companies. There are no checks and balances for consent or safe production practices. This presentation will examine the influence of pornography on the neurobiology of the developing and already developed brain and it will look at the correlation between porn and victimization. Finally, it will look at possible investigative practices that would integrate this growing influence.
Session Materials:
PowerPoint presentation not available
Pre-Conference Video
: https://youtu.be/nGs8kmYE5UU

5:30 pm – 7:30 pm Dinner on own

7:30 pm – 9:30 pm Networking and Discussion Opportunities
Description: Join the evening discussion with faculty and conference attendees and enjoy late night snacks. Theme-based discussion tables will be set up based on the needs and interests of those attending.

Day Two: Thursday, November 18, 2021

9:30 am – 10:00 am A Survivor’s Voice:
Faculty: Lori Stone LLMSW-C

10:00 am – 11:30 pm Plenary 5: Sexual Coercion & Abuse in Domestic Violence
Faculty: Lisa Aronson Fontes, Ph.D.
Description: While coerced, unwanted, and abusive sexual acts are a routine part of intimate partner abuse, most people find this a difficult topic to discuss, even in BIPs. Abusers often feel like they are entitled to “get it” from their partners and may have trouble seeing the coercive methods they may be using on a daily basis. BIP facilitators and other professionals may not be comfortable using sexually explicit language or hearing sexually violent details. Sometimes sexual violence can be obscured by talk of “lifestyles” and “wild sex.” We will dive into this somewhat uncomfortable conversation together, so we can better intervene with abusers who use sexual violence and coercion in a range of ways.
Session Materials:
Drugging an intimate partner as an abuse tactic
Sexual coercion in intimate relationships: Eight tactics
Pushing sex: Intimate partner sexual violence
Six reasons young victims cannot recognize sexual assault
Lisa’s website: www.LisaFontes.com
Lisa’s articles on Domestic Shelters: https://www.domesticshelters.org/about/contributing-writers/lisa-aronson-fontes-phd
Lisa’s articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-chains
Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/pQzL8Q6r7aM

11:30 pm – 11:45 pm Break

11:45 pm – 1:15 pm Plenary 6: Talking to Killers and Non-Lethal Abusers: What can they tell us about sexual coercion, jealousy and infidelity as key elements of abusive behavior?
Faculty: David Adams:
Description: Belying their minimizing and braggadocio, perpetrators of intimate partner homicides unwittingly provide useful information about the interconnections between sex and violence within the context of an abusive relationship. Their expectations about sex, rushed courtships, jealousy, and infidelity, provide retrospective insight when and why sexual coercion unfolds over time, and how this contributes to homicide. Based on in-depth interviews of killers as well as victims of attempted homicide, I will describe four phases of the relationship, beginning first with sex, onset of jealousy and infidelity, escalation of sexual coercion, and the weaponization of sex. While the first part of this session will focus on cases of homicide and near-homicide, the second part will focus on sex as a coercive element in non-lethal relationships of abusers engaged in an abuser intervention program. Key elements of this are first and second date sex, rescuing fantasies, the idea of being a “soul mate” and other kinds of magical thinking, infidelity, selfish sex and the evolution of sexual coercion.
Session Materials:
David Adams PowerPoint presentation
Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/Imya5Eejsf4

1:15 pm – 2:15 pm Lunch Buffet Provided

2:15 pm – 3:45 pm Plenary 7: Learning to Abuse: How Pornography and Sex Buying Influence Men’s Violence
Faculty: Carolyn West and Eli Zucker
Description: The normalization of sexualized violence is common in the socialization of men and boys. Where and how are those messages born? In this session, Dr. Carolyn West and Eli Zucker will explore how pornography and the sex trade normalize sexualized violence among boys and men, specifically through messages regarding race and gender. Together, we will unpack how that socialization contributes to behaviors that harm, often toward the most vulnerable and marginalized folks in our communities.
Session Materials:
Carolyn West and Eli Zucker Presentation Material
Learning To Abuse: How Pornography & Sex Buying Influence Men’s Violence

Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/A0C9yzskv-I
Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/MEAPf2iNE0w

3:45 pm – 4:00 pm Break

4:00 pm – 5:30 pm Plenary 8: Let Me Tell Ya’ll ‘bout Black Chicks: Violence Against Black Women in Pornography
Faculty: Carolyn West
Description: The docuseries “Surviving R. Kelly” left viewers asking: “How could a popular singer produce child pornography that featured degrading acts involving Black girls and women?” The reality is that these images are pervasive in the media and culture. This workshop will feature “Let me tell ya’ll ‘bout Black chicks: Images of Black women in pornography,” a searing documentary that unpacks the historical origins of the images found in contemporary pornography and identifies how these representations promote sexual violence against Black girls.
Session Materials:
Tarzia (2021). Recognizing connections between intimate partner sexual violence and porn
How porn perpetuates racist stereotypes of Black men
Demand-Buyer-Report-July-2019
Brem (in press) Problematic porn use and men in BIP
Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/A0C9yzskv-I

5:30 pm – 7:30 pm Dinner on own

7:30 pm – 9:30 pm 25th BISC-MI Anniversary Celebration & Networking and Discussion Opportunities
Description: Join the evening discussion with faculty and conference attendees and enjoy dessert. Discuss ideas on how to put what you have learned into practice. Network and share ideas and possible strategies.

Day Three: Friday, November 19, 2021

9:30 am – 11:00 am Plenary 9: Unique Traumas of Marital Rape
Faculty: Michigan Court of Appeals Judge Amy Ronayne Krause and Judge Michelle Rick
Description: Prior to working for the Michigan Court of Appeals, Judge Ronayne Krause was a lawyer for over 33 years. She ran a sex crimes prosecution unit in Washtenaw County and handled the first prosecution of a spouse going to prison after the spousal exception was removed from the criminal sexual conduct statute in Michigan in 1988. She was also a district court judge overseeing domestic violence cases in Ingham County for 7 years. Judge Rick conducted two specialty courts.  The one involving trafficked women with substance abuse disorder was trauma informed and responsive.  This court is called “Journey Court”.  This court uses the ACES test to screen participants.  The second specialty court was a sanctions-based model entitled “Swift and Sure Sanctions Probation Program” or “Swift and Sure” for short. This session will focus on specific, unique traumas endured by domestic violence survivors who have experienced sexual assault and will cover the court process of domestic and sexual violence cases.
Session Materials:
Unique Traumas of Marital Rape
Pre-Conference Video
: https://youtu.be/hk0GILxQtBQ

11:00 am – 11:15 am Break

11:15 am – 12:45 pm Plenary 10: Assessing for Perpetrating of Intimate Partner Sexual Violence
Faculty: Rus Ervin Funk
Description: Intimate Partner Sexual Violence (IPSV) is a complex, nuanced and common form of violence within the dynamics of intimate partner violence. Yet, the practice of thoroughly assessing for the perpetration of this form of abuse is not standard practice, and meaningfully addressing IPSV is not commonly done. This workshop lays out the five key factors that are necessary for men to perpetrate IPSV and provides some concrete strategies for assessing with men their use of IPSV.
Session Materials:
Assessing for Men’s Perpetration of Intimate Partner Sexual Violence
https://rusfunk.me/product/whats-wrong-with-this-picture-the-impact-of-viewing-pornography/
Article: Porn and ISPV
Article: Addressing and Combatting Intimate Partner Sexual Violence by Rus Ervin Funk and Lundy Bancroft 
Pre-Conference Video: https://youtu.be/gJWH2dWcnMY

12:45 pm – 1:45 pm Lunch Buffet Provided

1:45 pm – 3:15 pm Plenary 11: Let’s talk About Sex
Faculty: Diana Groener
Description: Surveys show that sexual abuse is rampant within domestic violence interactions, yet many batterer’s intervention programs skim over sexual issues in their curriculum. This seminar will discuss various ways to incorporate sexual topics, integrating them into everyday Batterer’s Intervention Program (BIP) sessions. Specific sexual modules that should be included in BIP curriculum will be discussed, including modules on healthy sexual relationships, healthy dating, and pornography use. A decision tree for when referrals for sexual addiction or sexual offending treatment are required will be shared. A brief outline of curriculum for two specialized treatment groups will also be given, one for men with a pattern of intimate partner sexual violence (IPSV) and one for psychopathic/criminally oriented men.
Session Materials:
IPSV Taxonomy by Bagwell-Gray
Let’s talk About Sex
Videos recommended by Diana Groener for use in group
A Call to Men, Tony Porter, Ted Talk 2010
: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td1PbsV6B80
Consent is Like a Cup of Tea, Youtube, Blue Seat Studios 2015: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU
What Young Women Believe about their own Pleasure, Peggy Orenstein, Ted Talk 2016: https://www.ted.com/talks/peggy_orenstein_what_young_women_believe_about_their_own_sexual_pleasure?language=en
Let’s Talk About Sex: the reality of the sexual pleasure disparity, Grace Wetzl, Youtube, Tedx 2018: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu4MbmDPwNQ
Sex Needs a New Metaphor, Al Vernacchio, Ted Talk 2012: https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one?language=en
What’s Your Sexual Footprint? Al Vernacchio, Youtube, Tedx 2013: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ckqQn7eG9es
The Truth About Unwanted Arousal, Emily Nagoski, Ted Talk 2018: https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal?language=en
Our Story of Rape and Reconciliation, Thordis Elva & Tom Stranger, Ted Talk 2016: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyPoqFcvt9w
A Case for Cliteracy, Sophia Wallace, Ted Talk 2014: https://www.ted.com/talks/sophia_wallace_a_case_for_cliteracy?language=en
Everyday Sexism, Laura Bates, Ted Talk 2013: https://www.ted.com/talks/laura_bates_everyday_sexism?language=en

3:15 pm – 3:30 pm Break

3:30 pm – 5:00 pm Plenary 12: Discussing Respectful Sexual Behavior
Faculty: Chris Hall
Description: As a follow-up and incorporation of information discussed in the June 2021 BISC-MI / Allies in Change sponsored “Addressing Sexualized Violence and Respectful Sexuality with Those Who Choose to Abuse,” this workshop will review information from that presentation, including discussions of toxic sexuality combinations of frequency and emotional/mental connections, conceptual frameworks for understanding sexual harms beyond rape, and sexually respectful behavior within the categories of inclusiveness, transparency, and support. This presentation will incorporate new sections on how to discuss sexual agency and sexual connections within battering intervention classes.
Session Materials:
Asking Questions About Sexual Respect and Harm Handout
BISC-MI-2021-Discussing Respectful Sexual Behavior SLIDE Handout
Pre-Conference Video
: https://youtu.be/fgx8hU3pFuw

5:00 pm – 5:30 pm Wrap-up and Raffle and End of Conference


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